Just after the pandemic, I was with a bunch of my dance classmates at a farewell dinner for a friend. We’d all had a great meal and were waiting to pay when one of them bemoaned 😭

“Ugh. I should have asked for his number.”

“Whose number?” I asked.

“The server.”

“Which one? I can go ask for you,” I offered.

You see, I’m already married and have zero ability to feel shame.

She perked right up. “The hot one.”

I looked around the burger restaurant (that’s since closed and been replaced by another) and I genuinely couldn’t tell which one she thought was the “hot one.”

Now, that isn’t to say I can’t judge human aesthetics. I went to art school after all. So I’ve stared at more naked humans than I can count. But—and go along with me on this one, Reader—when I look at humans I’m not intimately familiar with, I don’t feel anything. It’s like looking at paint on a wall.

Sure, I can guess based on my years of training and study in the arts that one human might be considered more aesthetically pleasing than another. But if I have no attachment to them… Nothing. 🤷🏻‍♀️

And in this case, every male waitstaff in the building looked equal to me.

Needless to say, my response of “Which one?” baffled everyone at the table.

At first, they thought it was a joke. Then they realized I was serious and couldn’t understand how I didn’t know which guy was “the hot one.”

And no amount of explaining seemed to help the situation either.

Sometime after that, when I was relating this dinner story to another friend, they stopped me with this piece of insight: “Hey, Kat, have you ever considered that you might be demisexual?”

I laughed. “Funny you should say that, because…” I had recently binge-read a fantastic indie comic called That Awkward Magic!! about two teen boys in a fake dating scheme.

Over the course of the story, one of the two lead characters—Evan—comes to realize there’s nothing fake about their relationship. He’s just demisexual and experiences things differently than his peers.

And in reading the comic, I realized that I was Demi too. Because it wasn’t just that dinner.

It was my classmates in 7th grade gushing about the Backstreet Boys and *NSYNC while I didn’t see the appeal at all. 😒 Because I thought their music was crap and the Spice Girls had better songs.

It was my friends in high school having crushes on celebs or boys they’d never even talked to. And I just couldn’t relate to that.

It was a lifetime of why did everyone feel something while I just…didn’t.

And then there was this character who felt—or more accurately didn’t feel—just like me. And then I met more people who were also just like me.

And isn’t that the most important thing about stories? To not only entertain us, but to help teach us something about ourselves along the way?

To make us feel less alone.

Less alien.

Less…other.

And so, Reader, if you’d like to have this sort of impact on a reader, I’ve got 5 ways to include queer characters in your next story. Because it’s Pride Month and representation matters.

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1) I like Boys + Slaying Dragons

You could create a Fantasy or SciFi story in which the Legendary Characters just happens to be queer, but the main focus of the story isn’t their sexuality.

That isn’t to say that their sexuality or gender can’t be an obstacle or conflict in the story. Speculative Fiction is a great medium to discuss important social issues that matter.

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2) Love IS Love

You could create a Fantasy story set in a queer-normative world in which the sexuality of the characters is neither an issue or taboo in the story’s setting. Instead, focus solely on queer characters wielding magic like the badasses they are.

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3) A Journey of Self-discovery

You could create a story in any genre, from Contemporary to Fantasy, where the Legendary Characters discover their sexuality along the way.

Maybe they’re trying to solve a murder or survive an apocalypse. Or maybe they’re on a quest for a legendary relic or fighting in an intergalactic war. Whatever your story’s set-up, it’s that journey which finally leads them to discover what they truly desire.

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4) Everyone is Awesome

You could feature a diverse cast of queer characters to showcase the spectrum of hardships and challenges queer persons face each day. This will also allow the reader a greater range of characters they can identify with.

You can also watch Heartstopper on ​Netflix​.

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5) Team Up

Not a member of the queer community yourself but want to feature more queer diversity in your fiction? You could team up with a queer author to ensure the characters you create are authentically and truthfully represented.

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But whatever you choose to do, Reader, remember: don’t just include queer characters for token diversity. Or worse, use bad stereotypes. Because representation matters. But bad representations hurt.

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Your cohort in storytelling,

Kat Vancil

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PS 👉 My blog The Saga features dozes of curated lists of queer book & comic recommendations for you to add to your TBR shelf.

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